Wednesday, November 7, 2012

Women & Fruits of the Spirit: Love (Part II)


Picking up where we left off…Love (fruit of the spirit) does not envy. Dictionary.com defines envy as jealousy; longing to possess something awarded to or achieved by another; a feeling of resentment that another has gained something that one more rightfully deserves. How many of you are killing yourself laughing at these definitions? I found these definitions quite hilarious not only as I was reading them, but also as I began to type them. I thought to myself, “Why would I want what someone else rightfully earned? Why would I want something that is achieved by and awarded to someone else?” I wouldn’t and I don’t. Believe it or not, there are people out there that spend their days and nights longing for what others have and it does not matter what it takes to get, they will get it.

Love does not envy- How many of us grew up in the home where you better not come in the house and tell your parents that Johnny and Jessica had the latest pair shoes and their parents just bought a new car? Raising my hand high above everyone else’s because the first words out of my parents mouths were, “You don’t know how Johnny and Jessica’s parents are paying for what they have” Why did we feel it necessary to tell our parents about Jessica and Johnny’s situation? Because at that particular time, we wanted a new pair of shoes just like theirs or maybe we were ashamed of that big green car that your parents so nicknamed Nelly that would break down every other block. We were envious of their material possessions.

Now that we are older, we know that envy is not of God and envy does not fit in the love equation because love does not envy and it does not buy a new car because your neighbor bought a new car, it does not remodel its kitchen because the best friend remodeled her bathroom, it does not put itself in debt trying to keep up with the Jones’. By the way, who are the Jones’? We don’t know how Mr. and Mrs. Jones are paying for what they have. What God has for you is for you & no one can take it away. Meaning you have what God sees fit for you to have at this particular time in your life. He will not give us more than He thinks we are ready for. You may be at a point in your life where this is what you’re meant to have. Not to say that this is all you’re meant to have in life.

Love does not boast and it is not proud. To me, to be boastful goes hand in hand with being proud. These are the people we tend to call show-offs and these are the people we tend to not want to be around because they work our first and last nerves. These people are similar to the women on these Real Housewives shows. There’s always one woman on the show that the others do not like because she’s boastful and proud a/k/a a show-off. Our parents & grandparents spent countless ours telling us to be ourselves and not pretend to be something or someone we are not. Why? Oh why did they tell us this? Because they didn’t want us to grow up and try to be someone or something that we are not, to start boasting and bragging about what we have, when we really don’t have anything, to begin to show-off our earthly possessions as if we can take it with us when we leave here. Boastful and proud, show-off’s, fake, phony, or whatever you want to call it, is not of God and does not fulfill the greatest command or is aligned with the first fruit of the spirit, Love.

Let’s reevaluate areas in our lives and see if we walking in love or if we are harboring envy, boastfulness, and pride. Are we one of those Real Housewives that no one wants to be around? 

To be envious, boastful and proud is not of love and goes against God’s greatest command-to love and love is the first fruit of the spirit.  

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